Not too long ago, I found out that the country of my birth, the Philippines, is the remaining holdout (aside from the Vatican) to not have divorce laws in place. My parents, however, were divorced. They were married in the Philippines but had their marriage dissolved in the U.S. Getting divorced in another country is one of the very few recourse available to married Filipinos. Which in turn, perpetuates the ongoing myth in countries like the Philippines and elsewhere, that in the U.S., marriage is taken lightly and that most marriages end in divorce. A myth that is perpetuated by the media and celebrities, unfortunately.
The truth is, statistics show that the divorce myth in the U.S. is just that. A myth. The numbers show, according to this New York Times article that the divorce rate has slowed down over the past decade and that in fact, the institution of marriage is stronger than ever. I certainly see that among acquaintances. News of anyone getting a divorce has gotten rare that when you hear of one, it has become a shock.
The downturn of divorce rate is definitely a good thing, but as any married person can tell you, it is a reality and sometimes an inevitable conclusion to some marriages. Some marriages are just not meant to be and we have to realize and accept that. Personally, even as I have no plans or desire to end mine, I like having that option available. Everyone should be able to make their own choices.
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The husband came home one day with a rifle. He knows how I feel about guns. I don’t like being around them, I don’t like them around my kids. But he says he’ll keep it locked up and away from view or easy access. He says he will on use it for wildlife. The ones that demolish our garden every year. So grudgingly, and only because the girls are older now, I let him bring it in the house.
Redesigning or remodeling your home does not always mean having to break the bank. There are dozens of little renovations you can do by yourself or hire a redesign company to do inexpensively, and they can really perk up the way your home looks.
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From the Kiva website:
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Here’s a couple of new posts on the other sub-blogs.
From the Garden,
We have been, or rather I should say MY HUSBAND, has been working on getting our garden straight for the past few weeks. He cleaned up the beds, cleared some debris against the back fence and he created a couple of new beds since part of the old ones were taken up when he put up his little work tent.
I took the photo above when he first started tearing up the garden. One of the things he did was pull up a row of canna lillies from the back to make room for a new vegetable bed. He’s moving the lillies to another corner of the yard.
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On Found Not Lost:
Whether you agree with it or not or even if it’s legal or not, more and more employers are demanding access to your facebook account. No, they don’t just want to be able to see your profile, they actually want your password!
It isn’t enough that you can already find out almost everything about anyone online nowadays just through a basic search online, for employers to demand passwords to your accounts, I think is going a little too far. Next thing you know, they will want to riffle through your home before they hire you. But, that is just my opinion. I would pass over any job that would require that of me.
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